Whether you are a dominant woman deciding whether this is worth your time, or a submissive man working out what to say first, the pages on this site are written for you specifically, not for both of you at once.
What this site actually is, and what it costs
Joining, your profile and browsing are free. Messaging needs a paid membership. Current prices are shown in full, before you pay, on our pricing page. A membership buys messaging. It does not buy anyone's time, compliance or attention.
If you are a submissive man
Start with how to find a domme, which covers where to look, what to write first, and an honest paragraph on how long it usually takes. If you are not sure what any of the words mean yet, what is a domme defines them plainly, without a glossary that reads like a checklist.
If you are a dominant woman
For dominant women sets out what we ask of the men here, what you control, and how to end a conversation without a scene. Read it before anything else on this site.
Wherever you are in the UK
Date a Domme has members across the country. Find the page for your city to see who is searching from where you live. It is a record of where people search, not a promise that anyone is online tonight.
Before you join
Safety on Date a Domme covers the two things that go wrong most often on a site like this: requests for money, and pressure to move a conversation off-site. Read it once, and keep it in mind.